Finding a Solution with Nuno

Smartphone ownership amongst teens has risen dramatically in the past few years. Reportedly over 50% of 11-year old’s own one, and increases to over 80% at age 14.

The smartphone has introduced a new paradigm in the parent-child relationship where many arguments and struggles involve the child’s smartphone use.

On the one hand, the smartphone has become central to the modern teen’s existence. Their whole world takes place on that device, as dramatic as that may sound. The smartphone is where they interact with friends through messaging and social media, watch videos and play games.

Not All Positive

The flip…

And it should not stop you from publishing them anyway

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Whenever I have a self-proclaimed epiphany about what topic to write about next, it’s usually short-lived.

More often than not, I will encounter articles that cover similar, if not the exact, same topic or spread the same message. To make matters worse, the pieces are far more eloquently written and contain much better examples and quotes.

As an aspiring writer, it’s a little disheartening and demotivating. After all, writing interesting articles is a competitive landscape as it is. Why would a reader choose your piece over a much more accomplished author?

This thought process is a battle against yourself more…

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And it doesn’t lead you anywhere

There is a sense of melancholy watching athletes that passed their prime. Like the boxer who knows his best days are long gone but can’t help himself get back into the ring and try to relive his best moments even though the odds stacked against him, and the likelihood of getting punished by a younger, quicker and harder punching opponent is far greater.

This begs the question. Why does a boxer stay active after his prime? It’s been part of his identity for so long that he convinced himself it’s all he knows. In most cases, it will take some…

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The dead-end route of comfort

When I was growing up, my parents put a lot of emphasis on the importance of our education. I remember the repetition vividly, even if it doesn’t feel important to you now, know that you need a college degree to fall back on. My younger sisters both embraced this philosophy and coasted their way through the educational ladder and even completed their PhDs well before they were even close to turning thirty.

My route contained a lot more bumps. A combination of teenage rebellion and having absolutely no idea of what to do with my life apart from becoming wealthy…

The liberating consequence of time constraint

The list of things I could live without
Grows longer as I move everything around

James Blake

Just make the list

To anyone that has read any self-help related book, the concept of setting priorities will hardly be new. However, it seems as though many of us haven’t accepted that they cannot do everything.

Creating a list of personal values is an essential step in figuring out what matters to you.

Taking the first step, similar to a lot of things, can be difficult, but you should keep in mind that this is not a first time right type of process. …

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A day in the life

What happens on an uneventful day with my three kids

Last weekend my wife had to attend a work event. This meant it would be just the kids and me for the day. I had known about this for a while, and it’s not a rare occurrence for me to take care of the kids alone. These days generally prove to be challenging nonetheless.

Whenever my wife has something planned, she makes sure everything is in order before she leaves. There are lists and instructions to follow, and whenever anything goes wrong, I can always call her. I’ll keep telling her I’ll be fine, and she knows better than that.

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Here is the advice that I follow

Now I’m admittedly not great at remembering famous quotes or words of wisdom. I’ll stumble across articles or inspirational lines every so often, but I’ll rarely remember them in detail. There are, however, some that have made it through and have nested within my brain. Below are the ones that help me with combining work and my family of five.

Advice at the top of my list was presented by a former CEO of Coca Cola, Bryan Dyson, in a speech he gave, on September 6th, 1991, at Georgia Tech’s 172nd Commencement.

On social media this speech has been dubbed…

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How I have developed a routine that gives me the balance to carry on

The consensus is that life with small children can be exhausting. As a proud father of three, I thought I would share my personal experiences.

At the time of writing, my kids are five, three, and seven months olds. I work full time, and my wife works part-time. Our lives are in many ways at the peak of rush hour. However, I feel we have got it under control for the most part.

This hasn’t always been the case. I struggled for a long time, even before our youngest was born. One of the biggest challenges for me was to…

A couple years ago I gradually started gaining weight and feeling tired constantly. At first I didn’t think too much of it and figured it was just an unfortunate consequence of working a full time desk job and raising a family.

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Over time the feeling I needed to change something grew stronger and after overhearing colleagues discuss a type of low-carb diet they were following I became intrigued whether this could work for me as well and decided to give it a go.

In addition I started working out more regularly and also took a stab at all sorts of…

Berend van Daalen

Proud husband and father of three. Not too sure about anything else, just trying to figure it out.

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